We all have dreams, goals or ambitions. Whether you want, be it success, sex, friends, money, fame, travel, or something else. More often than not, having or achieving what you want comes down to this question:
How confident are you?
Self-confidence is important if you want to succeed or win regardless of what you’re after. Sadly, lack of confidence will always hold you back.
“You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” -Wayne Gretzky
To compound it all, a lack of self-confidence is bad for your physical and mental health as well as your bank balance.
Low levels of confidence can be associated with
- Less participation in group physical activity
- Not trying new activities or hobbies
- Lower academic achievement
- Feelings of loneliness, frustration, isolation or exclusion
- Less sex
- Comfort eating
What is confidence?
This is a word we all know what it means to us, but if asked to describe or explain exactly what confidence is then it’s not easy summarise in once sentence. If you look confidence up in the dictionary there are several definitions. The definition below matches most closely to the kind of confidence we are talking about.
A feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities
To me this sentence means confidence is about how much I believe in myself on a personal level and how good I feel I am at doing something or performing a skill. There isn’t any mention of other people in this it’s all about my view of myself.
This is good as it means I can take ownership of my confidence, I can develop it, train it I can become confident at multiple skills and I have a lot of control over my confidence. The same applies to you! You can easily learn about confidence and about how to improve yours.
The brain and nervous system control everything in the body, which means they play a key role in mood. Confidence is not like blue eyes and is something you are born with, it is a skill, talent, attribute that you can easily improve with the correct training.
Of course other people can try and chip away at your confidence or something can happen to shatter your confidence. However it’s not like losing an eye or a leg, you can effectively ‘grow your confidence back” or have enough confidence to start with “like a personal force field” so that if someone is mean, then you just ignore it.
How can you use this information?
You can’t win confidence in a lottery or wish for it you need a reason to have self-confidence or want to be confident at doing something. Briefly, you become more self-confident if you become better at what you do, so you need something to work on or towards and work consistently on it. So the first step would be pin pointing exactly what do you want to be more confident at doing? For example it might be more confidence with job interviews or dating, it could be being more confident in the sports arena or with speaking in public.
“Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.” — Thomas Carlyle
Secondly, there are other ways to improve confidence and reduce anxiety such as using techniques from neuro linguistic programming (NLP), using hypnosis, using supplements to hack the biochemistry or using functional neurology as a direct route to the brain. This means that you can train your brain to improve your confidence and it’s something you can start doing today.
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